Helping Your Teenager Adjust To Divorce

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Divorce is never easy, but it can be especially challenging when you have teenagers at home. Teens are already trying to cope with the body changes, stress, peer pressure and school work in their lives, and some are especially reluctant to talk about their feelings. Setting them up with a good child psychiatrist can help.

Your teen may have difficult questions for you that you’re not ready to answer. He or she may seem fine on a surface level but may actually be struggling with guilt, anger and depression. Your teen desperately needs you during this time of transition, despite the way things may appear on the surface. In addition to seeking out professional behavioral health services, keep these things in mind when talking to your teens:

  • Teenagers are not adults. Adolescents from divorced homes often seem to grow up faster than other kids. While it’s fine to expect help with household chores and other responsibilities, refrain from asking them to take on too much. Allow them their free time.
  • Do not speak poorly of your ex-spouse in front of your teen. No matter what the circumstances of your split were, teens need to love and be loved by both parents.
  • Don’t discuss issues with your teen that need to be worked out with your ex such as visitation, financial matters and miscommunications.